General:

Agreeability is part and parcel of individual manners and etiquette. If you are well-mannered people will certainly develop a liking for you. Your politeness, courtesy, helping attitude will make you popularity. One has to remember that popularity because then popularity will diminish and vanish.
The main aim of etiquette is to develop one’s own self and through it to promote social goodwill. The more one perfects oneself in good manners, the more one’s agreeability increases. It is a wrong notion that one has to show one’s firmness to establish one’s personality. In confrontation with others, to gain one’s own point, one need not wage a other party see reason. In any case a clash of force and strength may not yield the desired result, but may create an insoluble situation.
A man’s true personality depends on his disposition and behavior. Disposition signifies the way he carries himself, his manner of standing, sitting, talking, his overall temperament, and so on.

Friends:

No social life is completed without friends. Birds of the same feature flock together. Hence, it is expected that families will make friends with those who have the same trend. This does not mean that others are excluder. Far from it and actually the family may spend more time with neighbors and casual acquaintance while the family friends may visit once in a while, at home or at get-togethers, picnics, and so on. However, like mindedness is the basis of friendship and this goes for family friendship, and this goes for family friendship as well. Not only mentalities, but also other situations where the children of two families like each other, and get suited to one another, are the other condition for the two families to become friends of each other. In such a relationship, it is required that when the two families meet or go out on an excursion etc., the families should in their outlook consider them as a bigger family for the time being.

Husband and Wife:

The core of the family round the husband and the wife when young, along and just starting life, many an adjustment, was made, many a misunderstanding resolved, cemented and forgotten. This was the time when faith and interdependence were developed, when individuality was forgotten and a joint life was launched.
As new members, that is, the children arrived in the family, the requirements of the family took a different turn, but the husband-wife relationship was strengthened into the intimacy of oneness, one hope, one ideal, one goal. In short through this husband-wife oneness the turn family-union is built up, where the love and affection between the parents, are reflected in the attitude and emotion of the children toward their parents.
It might be wrong to suppose that the agreeability between the husband and the wife is the ultimate end. The husband and the wife through their education and judgment maintain agreeability, but that may sometimes degenerate to artificiality which is the bane of any married life. Normalcy and the highest glow of happiness, the act of keeping one happy and pass on this happiness to one’s partner, are the measures to be adopted. In this way, both husband and wife will find that agreeability comes to them naturally in whatever they do or think separately.

Family and Society

Family is an important unit in society. The standard and especially the cultural of a family make it agreeable to other families and to the society as a whole. Here, standard does not necessarily mean financial standard, but educational and behavioral standard. The behavior of the family or family tradition depends mostly on the elders, who are to guide the young members of the family properly so that the prestige of the family is preserved and perpetuated.

Modern family may be a small unit with the father, the mother and the children, the son and daughters. The bringing up of the children is the responsibility of the parents. The parents may preach something and practice something else. In that case the effects will be unproductive on the young generation. Young boys and girls would learn from the parents’ behavior, how they behave with others, how they behave with each other, and particularly how they behave when they are angry.

Anger brings out the real self of the man. Not anger by it but its reactions, speak of a man’s or women’s background, bringing up status and standard in society. There are persons who when angry would throw tantrums, would forget themselves, and behave insanely, with abuses pouring out of the mouth like water from the tap.

Agreeability:

Agreeability is a two-sided proposition. A person has to make himself agreeable to others. This is not an automatic matter. A person may be highly qualified, very handsome, a renowned sports-person or film-star, but does not mean that he or she will be at once agreeable to others. Certainly, distance lends charm and a film-star or a test-cricketer may be very popular and may have many fans. These do not entitle him or her to real agreeability. If such a person is haughty and wears high airs, it would be difficult for such a person to become agreeable to others.

Personality growth

Agreeability is an attribute of the personality of a person. This person may possess this attribute from birth, that is, as an integrated part of his nature. Here, it is easy for him to reciprocate with others in the exchange of feelings and emotions as well as reactions. Reciprocity as an inherent part of nature will make one react favorably with others in situations that will bring mutual respect and joy.

If a person doesn’t possess the quality of agreeability as such, even then, he may cultivate this attribute in him. Agreeability is a social quality and through this one becomes acceptable to others. Politeness, courtesy, sincerity friendliness, helping attitude, between others, are likely to draw a person to others.

Big Associations:

Big associations are to observe a different kind of etiquette than the close club-life manners. Such associations may exist for larger objectives of social and public life. The work of such associations of is paramount in times of big calamities like flood, epidemic or other disasters that befall on mankind from time to time.

To look after the refugees and the homeless, to get involved in the work for them to provide food, shelter, clothes, etc. are big responsibilities. The volunteers should be attuned to a much disciplined attitude in life to take part in such association-work. Carelessness, neglect of duty, apathy, as well as personal considerations of comfort and gain, are totally detrimental to such voluntary work.

If a group of persons is off-loading the sick and wounded persons from the trains and carrying them in stretchers to the relief camps, then each person of the group should realize the great trust and responsibility reposed in them. If the group members laugh and talk in a carefree manner while carrying the wounded person who may be groaning in pain, or is in utter distress, then it may be said that the group members are indulging in the worst etiquette.

Associations-Clubs:

Clubs are pleasure and recreationary associations where people meet after the exhaustion of daily work or grind at the office or business interactions. Recreation of this kind where people meet, socialize, play or practice in-door or games etc., are good for the relaxation of the mind and the brain. There are cooperation, coexistence and competition in these clubs and through these and other kinds of diversions, people may draw relaxation and relief and recoup their energy.

There are various types of clubs, like status clubs where membership is restricted and granted only after qualifying certain standards or rank and wealth. Then, there are professional are admitted, like doctors or lawyers’ clubs etc. In all these clubs, members may be allowed from time to time bring with them friends or guests in limited number.

Since, relaxation, relief and diversions are the main goals of such clubs; the members should enjoy the club-life in the best of spirits. Worries and anxieties of personal kind, or competition, superiority, jealousy, diplomacy intrigues, and so on, should be forsaken.