Artificiality-Pretension

Artificiality is negative etiquette. A wrong conception has come to stay that civilized behavior requires behavior in a certain way. The belief is that you have bring in a certain polish and sheen in your actions. Ladies of civilized societies may be taught to smile sweetly and practice this smile as well as lash it in various circumstances when they may feel quite differently inside.

It is true that a part of social politeness is to utter words of greeting, thanks etc. in social meets and discourses under some sort of automatic reactions. This is part etiquette and social culture. However, this behavior should not be extended to mere artificiality where a person may do and say things while his intentions may be quite different.

Affectation

When two persons meet, they may try to excel other and show this off through tales of achievements, real or conjured. This is false competition and is outside the realm of real manners and etiquette. At the same time it is not required that one leaves one’s normal behavior and responses to acquire artificial manners.

Affected style of manners may be the copy of another way of talking, laughing and so on. A style of talking or action which is not normal, will never be impressive.

Reciprocity-Inter-change:

Inter-change of feelings is at the core of cultural contacts. Two individual stay and grow in society through mutual tolerance, appreciation and fair competition. Politeness and civility are essentials of a civilized society. Everybody is concerned about himself and it when one does a good turn to another that civilization advances.

Politeness:

Politeness costs nothing. It gives out the nature and mental maturity of the incumbent. Politeness draws and creates politeness. We have to exist with our fellowman, see their point, and deal with them reasonable. If somebody does a good turn to another, the latter has to reciprocate with “thank you” or “thank you very much”. In reply to this “thank you”, the first gentleman has to say “you are welcome” or simply “welcome”. In America they would say “any time”, and so on.

Acceptance:

Acceptance and adjustments have social values, and we cannot live with other people in a society without these qualities. We accept the good sides of people and adjust with their faults, if any.

Behavior:

Behavior has no settled dimension of action. Some on meeting other may fold their hands, others may shake hands, other may embrace, bow to one another, or act according to the custom and tradition of the region where they belong

Interview:

Interviews are importance landmarks in life. Proper manners and etiquette culminating in right disposition and behavioral discipline are important adjuncts in out working and daily life. Whenever we meet new people, get introduced to them and so on, we have to go through the process of some sort of interview. We ask questions and are asked questions, we talk and laugh and converse, and all the while we are interviewing one another.

Fellow Candidates:

When one goes for a job interview, the first embarrassing obstruction one faces is to be placed among the fellow candidates in a room. The nervousness, the tension, waiting for the turn of the interview call, etc. are quite nerve wrecking unless the candidate is accustomed to adjustment in such situations.

Interview Chamber

It is important the way one enters the interview room. As soon as one’s call comes to go inside, one must knock the door before entering. It is customary knock thrice then open the door and then make a slight blow and say “Good Morning”.

Questions:

When the questions begin, your answer should be clear and automatic as for as possible. If there are three or five interviewers, they may ask different questions one after another and in quick succession. While you answer one interviewer do not let you look wander to another interviewer. You will only talk to the person questioning you.

Public Relation Etiquette-Government/Public Office:

Public relation work is very important in such offices. The numbers of persons contacting such offices are large. These members of the public’s are restless, in a hurry and are like a ship without a redder without guidance. Besides, it requires special qualities in the PR officers at such places, who are face with the hurrying and impatient mole. However, if the PROs in such public offices behave with civility, gentleness and discipline, the mob will also act patiently and sensibly.

The PRO’s position in a public office is a responsible one. He should not take it lightly, or eat, drink, gossip or wander about, leaving the seat vacant. On his efficiency and alertness depend the work and well-being of so many people.

Temperament:

From the previous lines, it may be concluded that in public relation, one should have the temper at his control. Guidance, assistance, protection, security etc. are all to be meshed in the PRO’s behavior. If the PRO easily loses his temper, gets emotionally involved in altercations, or particularly singles out one customer for punitive action, he would be deemed to be failing in his duties

Public Relation Etiquette-General Public:

When a person deals with the general public the work of public relation is in motion. The dealings can be made graciously or clumsily, haphazardly or with irregularity and without attention. Beside the counterman who is handling or dealing with the general public at so many government offices or places like railways, post-office, banks, treasury office, water and electricity, and so on, there are special public relation officers in many commercial organizations whose duties are to perpetuate the goodwill of the concerned office among the masses and outsiders.
Proficiency:
Efficient is keynote of a public relations officer. In smaller office the person at the reception handles the public relation job like meeting enquiries, guiding outsiders to right persons and sections. But, in reality the PRO’s job is a specialized one. He must have knowledge of the whole range of activities of the organizations. He should be able to help outsiders to sort out their particular problems and advise them as to the right course to follow.
For commercials offices, a good public relations man is an asset. He is soft-spoken, well-tempered, having wide knowledge and experience in the line. The prospective customer’s first contact is with the PRO of the firm. The latter’s encouraging words and advice will prompt the customer to decide in favor of the firm’s product.

Opposite Sex:

Mixing and confrontations take place between opposite sexes, males and female, almost in walks of life. The male dominated world has yielded to a social structure where males and females work and exist with equal efficiency. It is for this reason the word “chairman” has been replaced by “chairperson” in many world bodies, because the chairperson may be a male or a female personality.
Office:
Office or workplace, in recent times, is the main backdrop where men and women meet through the necessity of duty performance. They may meet either in the manner of colleagues or as superiors and subordinates. In the office or the workplace efficiency is the key-word. One inefficient personal whether male or female, may cause the whole office-work to slow down
Equals:
Colleagues are equals, and when men and women working in the same office or side by side at any workplace, treat each other with the same respect as due to equals, that is the best etiquette at work.
Institution:
Men and women professor work in the same institution, and it is true that requires much adjustment and balance.
Clubs:
With democratic rights and higher standards of living, clubs are within the reach of an average male or female. These clubs may be cultural ones like music, drama etc. or may be social ones for expanding of social services to the people of the community

Professional Etiquette-Code of conduct:

There was a doctor, a very nice man, who cared less for money and more for the quick cure and well-being of his patients. This doctor never became rich , but the laughter and jokes he shared with his patients, and the free and gay atmosphere in his chamber, had tonic-reactions on his patients, who came to his chamber with ailing groans but left the same smilingly. Should be therefore equating professional behavior with success! Success or not, the professional man has his commitment first to the community. The mercenary tendency of any working man, on the one hand, and his public-spirited behavior his popularity on the other, which of these will push him toward success! Well, a popular man in his profession will hardly lack his livelihood in society which he serves with genuine sincerity.
A man may become in his profession from big to bigger and then reach the highest level. That does not mean that he should lose his humanity, the he should sacrifice his politeness and gentleness at the altar of success.
Ethics
It is essential of professional ethics that one should not decry or denounce a fellow of the same profession. If you bring out the black spots of your fellow professional; the intelligent outsider will come to understand the secrets of your trade and vocation. Thus, one writer should not speak ill of another writer, one publisher, one teacher of another teacher, one trader of another trader, and so on.